I leave Elden Ring Nightreign matches all the time. Sometimes Iām playing with friends and we botch the first Evergaol mini-boss at level 2. Sometimes Iām playing with internet randos and the Recluse runs off to farm crystals without telling anyone and we get wiped multiple times by the Perfumerās crossbow-wielding glass cannon henchmen. Every time I leave, the game warns me not to. āDonāt do it, donāt you dare do it!ā it chides me. These are empty threats. I know because I lob them at my kids all the time. I have yet to see any evidence that Iāve actually been penalized for leaving matches, something Iāve occasionally done multiple times in a row.
Iām hardly alone. Nightreignās mysterious abandonment penalty is a perennial topic on the subreddit. Some fans donāt like that the game warns you about leaving even after your teammates have already ditched and youāre the last one left standing. Others are like, āWhat the hell are you talking about? Iāve never gotten a penalty in 100 hours of playing!ā
āIs there ACTUALLY a penalty tho?ā reads one thread from shortly after Nightreign launched. āI have left 10+ games and there are no penalties,ā responded the aptly named Successful-Escape293. āIāve left maybe 50ā¦ā wrote another. āPlease stop picking Recluse and soloing field bosses while Guardian and I are clearing castle (itās been pinged for the last 3 mins by both of us).ā
Do a Google search for the Nighteign penalty and youāll get lots of articles gesturing at some ill-defined matchmaking restriction that gets invoked after a vague number of abandonments. āIf you intentionally abandon a match, youāll be met with a matchmaking penalty that will prevent you from grouping up with other players for roughly 10-15 minutes,ā reads one Game Rant explainer. It says āthe timerā will get longer as you rack up abandonments. That would make sense. It is, after all, how a number of other online games handle it. But Iāve never seen this mysterious timer, and have struggled to find anyone who has.

āThe penalty will only apply after multiple disconnections, roughly around 5 disconnections,ā reads guides site Game8‘s explanation. āOnce the penalty has been done and the player waits out the queue, another few numbers of disconnections are once again required for getting penalized once again.ā I frequently have matchmaking issues in Nightreign. Is that this hidden penalty in action? I couldnāt find a game for 10 minutes last night, then exited out of matchmaking, restarted, and found one almost instantly. Bad netcode, or karma for bad sportsmanship? Publisher Bandai Namco didnāt immediately respond to a request for comment.
A few things could be going on here. Maybe there is a secret penalty that impacts matchmaking but itās never explicitly displayed in-game and its implementation is so inconsistent that most people just feel like it doesnāt exist. Maybe there was a penalty once but FromSoftware dialed it back or turned it off to try to improve matchmaking conditions which were quite rough at launch and still donāt support cross-play. Or maybe, just maybe, the warning is an empty threat meant to corral behavior without actually enforcing any punishment. All I can say for now is that Iāve seen more proof of Bigfoot and aliens than of the Nightreign matchmaking penalty.
Does that mean there shouldnāt be one? Not at all! Thereās nothing worse than getting invested in a decent run, being blessed with some great legendary drops, and then seeing a teammate randomly ditch because they lost their runes in the storm or decided to start playing 15 minutes before they had to leave the house. But good penalties require transparency, predictability, and clear rules, none of which exist right now. Something else FromSoftware could fix while itās at it? For the love of Erdtree, add a surrender button and let us instantly conclude runs if we all agree itās going badly. Thereās nothing worse than blowing a run and then needing to wait until the circle closes to get your murk and relic rewards. Maybe all of that will arrive with the duos mode teased early last month.