The World of Japanese Husband Salaries

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In Japan, there's the salary you get from your company. And if you are a married man, there's the salary you get from your wife. It's called "okozukai" (お小遣い), which is sometimes translated as "pocket money". Think of it as a husband salary. That's what it is.


Traditionally, Japanese women control a family's finances. Even if the wife works, she still is supposed to manage the household's money. As The Japan Times pointed out, in around half of Japanese households, the wife controls all the finances. (Note that the number is down from previous years in what could be a generational shift.) And in thirty percent of marriages, both the husband and wife control the finances together. And in only twenty percent of households do the husbands control the finances.

Japanese law does not allow joint or family accounts (only individual accounts!); so when it's said that the wife controls the money, that's exactly what it means.

Often, when married men in Japan befriend other married men, a common question might be how much one gets for okozukai. Every year, the Japanese media even reports on the average monthly pocket money Japanese husbands get from their spouses.

"I met my wife, who is eight years older than I am, while working at a diner as a student," 35 year-old Shinya Horikawa, who works at a video game company, recently told ZakZak. "After we got married, there was a complete change. Now, of course, my salary and everything in the house is controlled (by my wife)."

According to ZakZak, the average okozukai last year was 39,600 (US$396). That includes the husband's cell phone bill, which in Japan is usually a little over a hundred bucks. It also includes other things, such as eating out and booze or cigarettes for those who drink and smoke. What's more, if you are into video games, music, or books, well, that comes from your husband salary, too. Want a new game? Use your allowance. Want a haircut? Well, take it out of your pocket money. Need new clothes? Use your okozukai. By managing money like this, families are, on average, able to save the equivalent of over $200,000.

It's not strange for Japanese celebrities to say on TV they only get a couple hundred bucks' worth of allowance from their wives.


Of course, some people get much lower allowances. The previously mentioned Horikawa complained to ZakZak about his monthly 90-dollar allotment, adding, "As hard as things get, I just cannot stop smoking. And though I work for a game developer, all the games I'm able to afford are free smartphone games..."

Wives, who are managing the money, also usually get an allowance, which they use to go out with friends or go shopping for themselves. The average is 22,600 yen ($226); women with children get, on average, a lower allowance, while women without children get significantly more. For example, according to Livedoor Home, married women in their twenties without children reported an average allowance of 47,351 yen ($473). Certainly, young married men without children typically have a higher okozukai than those with them.


Many Japanese wives don't just have their okozukai. Some also have "secret savings" called "hesokuri" (臍繰り), which can be literally translated as "belly-button money". According to The New York Times, a poll revealed that 55 percent of married women keep a secret stash of cash that their husbands, who perhaps don't check the household finances, are totally unaware of. This isn't new, and it's not necessarily selfish: There's a famous story of a Chiyo, the wife of 16th century samurai Kazutoyo Yamanouchi, who saved up her hesokuri to buy her husband a magnificent horse, which ultimately helped earn him fame in battle.

In the West, there are those husbands who certainly turn all the household finances over to their wives. Heck, Willie Nelson said he does. This isn't a Japan-only thing, either, by any stretch. However, it does show how much power Japanese women ultimately do have in the country. Let's be clear, there are certainly glass ceilings and inequality, fraught with structural problems, such as insufficient daycare for working women. But one of the ways women have long ultimately wielded power in Japan is through controlling the country's purse strings.


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I married a Japanese woman, she didn't live within her means, which meant when I started giving her my paychecks neither of us could live within our means. The practice of giving over one's income to another person is an act of love or trust, and it can be practical depending on the person, but I will never fucking do it again in my lifetime, never fucking the fuck ever a-fucking-gain. The biggest insult was how SHE resented ME for not earning enough, as she flicked bills in my direction after tearing me another asshole every few weeks in the middle of the night, reveling in the power she had to keep me trapped there, back bent like a jackass, unable to fuck off to a hotel for the night because I didn't have a penny to spend until she gave it to me. I'd have to get my own fucking money back from her to go sleep in a hotel to make sure I could do the job the next day that she would collect on. I try not to make broad judgments based on the very fucked up bad marriage I had, but in my experience, giving over one's income, one's lifeblood, to another person is complete fucking bullshit. NO. I can't even smile ruefully when I talk to married guys who do that. I want to club them and their wives with one sloppy roundhouse swing, and then I want to check my bank balance for reassurance.