"If games don't offer us complex heroines, then we apparently stop looking for them." That's critic Maddy Myers discussing kink, sex positivity, and female empowerment in Bayonetta in an excellent essay for Paste. Give the whole thing a read, and remember to check out our review of Bayonetta 2.
"Both kink and games involve and even require co-operation and trust: between the player and the author, between the players themselves, between someone experiencing pain and someone inflicting it." Game devs Porpentine and Merritt Kopas talk about the intersection of kink and video games over at Trash Babes.