Dominatrix Simulator

Sick of getting tied up? Power on your Oculus headset and get stomped on instead. The VR-compatible Dominatrix Simulator, which its creators say in its itch.io description can also be played on Windows with a keyboard, lets you pretend one of three giant monster girls are punishing you.

Playing in VR adds sort of a tertiary color element to this game—you’re half in the virtual world and half in the real as you take advantage of the game’s physical “pose recognition” and feedback. As is always welcome in NSFW games, you can alter the game’s dialogue to refer to whatever gender, pronouns, and anatomy you prefer. And unlike the other games on this list, Dominatrix Simulator doesn’t involve romantic relationships or context. That might make it a good option for solo-reflection and play.

Mistress Shayla’s advice: “The best place to start [with BDSM] is to look within and ask why. Why do the activities in the game turn me on? Do I like humiliation? Do I feel more free when I’m all tied up? Maybe I’m craving the emotional intimacy of being vulnerable with another person, or feeling proud that they want to be in a vulnerable position with me?

Once you’ve explored your own motivations, you can meet others in person or online. Fetlife.com is a great place to find events and classes in your area. I recommend going to your local ‘munch,’ a very casual, nonsexual gathering, normally at a coffee shop or a restaurant. There, you can meet others like you in a no-pressure environment.” And though monster girls are formidable, keep in mind that “jumping right into being a leather-clad Domme’s full-time, live-in slave is not going to happen. A good kinky scene or relationship means both partners’ needs are being fulfilled.”

“The world of BDSM is so broad and encompasses so many things,” Mistress Shayla said.

You might find all the things you need from BDSM in games like those included in this slideshow, but if you want more and have only ever experienced BDSM in games, “Go to as many classes and parties as you can, try online classes, join discussion groups and Discord channels,” Mistress Shayla said. “Learning how other people play can help you discover things about yourself that a video game could never teach you.”